Benarkah Semakin Besar Anak, Semakin Mandiri?

‘Enak ya anaknya sudah besar. Tidak repot lagi. Jadi banyak waktu luang untuk diri sendiri.’ Benarkah semakin besar anak, semakin mandiri ia? Pernahkah mendengar anak yang sudah dewasa tetapi tidak mandiri? Semakin besar, semakin banyak menyusahkan orangtua. Semakin besar, semakin merongrong orangtua.

Ibarat membesarkan anak macan. Orangtua dijadikan seperti pembantu dan ATM. Kalau tidak dituruti, orangtuanya disakiti tidak hanya secara verbal tetapi juga secara fisik. Artinya apa? Menjadikan anak mandiri itu tidak mudah. Banyak hal yang harus dilakukan orangtua agar anak tumbuh semakin besar menjadi kian dewasa dan semakin bisa diandalkan.

Sebelum Berada Dalam Kandungan

Mempunyai anak sholeh dan sholehah adalah suatu perjuangan yang diawali dengan meminta perlindungan Allah Ta’ala. Sebelum orangtua bercampur, mereka berdoa. Doa ini terdapat dalam hadist yang diriwayatkan oleh Bukhari no. 6388 dan Muslim no. 1434. Doa yang bermakna agar Allah Ta’ala melindungi anak yang mungkin dihasilkan dari hubungan suami istri tersebut.

Selengkapnya doa ini dibaca sebelum berhubungan suami istri. ‘Bismillah Allahumma jannibnaasy syaithoona wa jannibisy syaithoona maa rozaqtanaa’ (Dengan nama Allah jauhkan kami dari gangguan setan dan jauhkan setan dari rezeki yang Engkau anugerahkan kepada kami).

Didik dengan Ilmu

Selama dalam kandungan, didik anak dengan ilmu karena ilmu adalah penerang kehidupan. Ajak anak mengaji dan mengkaji Al Qur’an, hadist, dan ilmu dunia dan akhirat lainnya. Jaga lingkungan tetap kondusif agar janin hanya mendengar perkataan yang baik dan hanya merasakan tingkah laku yang sesuai dengan kaidah.

Jauhkan dari melakukan perbuatan yang sia-sia dan melalaikan. Jangan dibawa ke pasar termasuk mal terlalu sering jika tidak ada keperluan. Pasar itu adalah tempat setan. Terlalu banyak hal yang tidak menunjang ibadah kalau berada di pasar atau mal dan supermarket. Siang dan malam pun terkadang tidak terasa karena larut dalam buaian proses melihat, menjual, dan membeli. Belum lagi hiburan yang melenakan lainnya yang banyak terdapat di mal.

Setelah lahir, biasakan anak bersandar pada Allah Ta’ala, ajak anak terus terbiasa dengan hapalan Al Qur’an. Ajarkan anak kemandirian sedini mungkin. Ajak anak melihat orangtuanya sholat malam dan sholat berjamaah. Bila perlu gendong ketika mengerjakan sholat jika anak rewel. Tidak membatalkan sholat melakukan gerakan diluar sholat berulang kali jika memang ada alasan syar’i. Rasulullah pun pernah menggendong cucunya ketika sedang sholat. Hadist yang mengatakan tidak boleh melakukan gerakan diluar gerakan sholat lebih dari tiga kali adalah hadist lemah.

Benarkah anak semakin besar, semakin mandiri? Tidak selamanya demikian bila tidak dipersiapkan dengan baik.

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  1. EXERCISE 25.1
    Focus: Identifying correct and incorrect preposition choice
    Directions: Underline the prepositions that correctly complete the following sentences.

    1. Wage rates depend (in/on) part (from/on) the general prosperity (of/for) the economy.

    2. (For/To) an injection to be effective (on/against) tetanus, it must be administered (by/within) 72 hours (of/for) the injury.

    3. The invention (of/for) the hand-cranked freezer opened the door (for/to) commercial ice-cream production, and (for/since) then, the ice-cream industry has grown (in/into) a 4-billion-dollar-a-year industry.

    4. (At/On) the time (of/in) the Revolutionary War, the North American colonies were merely a long string (with/of) settlements (along/among) the Atlantic Coast (between/from) Maine and Georgia.

    5. The probability (of/for) two people (in/on) a group (of/for) ten people having birthdays (in/on) the same day is about one (in/of) twenty.

    6. Showboats were floating theaters that tied up (at/to) towns (in/on) the Ohio and Mississippi Rivers to bring entertainment and culture (to/at) the people (on/in) the frontier.

    7. Scrimshaw, the practice (of/for) carving ornate designs (in/on) ivory, was first practiced (by/of) sailors working (by/with) sail needles while (in/on) long sea voyages.

    8. Assateague Island, (off/of) the coast (off/of) Virginia, is famous (for/to) its herds (of/with) wild ponies.

    9. (In/On) order (for/to) an object to be visible, light must travel (from/for) that object (at/to) a person’s eyes.

    10. (In/On) the 1930s and 1940s, when train travel was (on/at) its peak, passengers could look forward (for/to) wonderful meals (on/at) trains.

    11. (In/Since) the 1960s, op art, which was based (in/on) scientific theories (of/for) optics, employed patterns (of/in) lines and colors that seemed to change shape as the viewer looked (on/at) them.

    12. The first national convention devoted (for/to) the issue (of/with) women’s rights, organized partly (of/by) Elizabeth Cady Stanton, was held (in/on) her hometown (in/of) Seneca Falls, New York, (in/on) 1848.

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  2. EXERCISE 28
    Focus: Identifying errors involving conjunctions
    Directions: For Sentence Completion items, mark the answer choice that correctly completes the sentence. For Error Identification items, circle the underlined portion of the sentence that would not be considered correct.

    1. Model airplanes can be guided both by control wires or by radio transmitters.

    2. Specialty stores, unlike department stores,
    handle only one line of merchandise
    __________ a limited number of closely
    related lines.
    (A) either
    (B) but
    (C) instead
    (D) or

    3. ThomasEakins studied not only painting
    __________ anatomy when he was training
    to become an artist.
    (A) moreover
    (B) but also
    (C) as well
    (D) and

    4. Information in a computer can be lost because it is not longer stored or because it is stored but cannot be retrieved.

    5. A mosaic is a picture done from small bits of either colored glass or tile.

    6. Although topology is the youngest branch
    of geometry, __________ is considered the
    most sophisticated.
    (A) but it
    (B) soit
    (C) it
    (D) however it

    7. John Lancaster Spaulding was not only a religious leader and also a social reformer.

    8. In 1923, Jean Toomer wrote a book titled
    Cane that combined fiction __________
    poetry to describe the experience of being
    black in the United States.
    (A) and
    (B) to
    (C) also
    (D) or

    9. Although fish can hear, they have neither
    external ears or eardrums.

    10. In all animals, whether simple and complex, enzymes aid in the digestion of food.

    11. Endive can be used __________ as a salad
    green or as a cooking vegetable.
    (A) such
    (B) both
    (C) either
    (D) neither

    12. The two most common methods florists are used to tint flowers are the spray method and the absorption method.

    13. Beekeepers can sell both the honey and the beeswax that their bees produces.

    14. Glucose does not have to be digested,
    __________ it can be put directly into the
    bloodstream.
    (A) so
    (B) while
    (C) and since
    (D) such

    15. The human brain is often compared to a
    computer, and such an analogy can be misleading.

    16. Not only rust corrodes the surface of metal, but it also
    weakens its internal structure.

    17. Natural fiber comes from either animal
    __________ plant sources.
    (A) or
    (B) otherwise
    (C) and
    (D) nor

    18. A work of science fiction generally uses scientific discoveries and advanced technology, either real or imaginary, as part of their plot.

    19. Community theater not only provides entertainment for local audiences as well as furnishes a creative outlet for amateurs
    interested in drama.

    20. Paint is ____________________________
    used to protect wood.
    (A) not only the substance
    (B) the substance which is not only
    (C) not only a substance which is
    (D) not the only substance

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  3. EXERCISE 29
    Focus: Identifying and correcting errors and correct forms of comparatives and superlatives.
    Directions: Choose the option—(A), (B), (C), or (D)—that correctly completes the sentence. For
    Error Identification items, circle the underlined portion of the sentence that would not be considered
    correct.

    1. The American and Canadian political systems are like in that both are dominated by two major parties.

    2. Wild strawberries are _______________
    cultivated strawberries.
    (A) not sweeter
    (B) not as sweet as
    (C) less sweeter than
    (D) not sweet as

    3. The period is probably the most easiest punctuation mark to use.

    4. When metal replaced wood in the construction of ships’ hulls,
    more strong ships could be built.

    5. Sea bass ____________ freshwater bass.
    (A) are larger than
    (B) the larger the
    (C) are as large
    (D) than are larger

    6. Charcoal is the more commonly used cooking fuel in the world.

    7. Automobiles, airplanes, and buses use more
    energy per passenger ____________.
    (A) as do trains
    (B) than trains do
    (C) trains do
    (D) like trains

    8. Few American politicians have spoken more eloquently as William Jennings Bryan.

    9. The larger a drop of water, _____________
    freezing temperature.
    (A) the higher its
    (B) its higher
    (C) higher than its
    (D) the highest

    10. __________ San Diego and San Francisco,
    Los Angeles has no natural harbor.
    (A) Dissimilar
    (B) Unlike
    (C) Dislike
    (D) Different

    11. During a depression, economic conditions are far worst than they are during a recession.

    12. The spinal column is alike the brain in that its main functions can be classified as either sensory or motor functions.

    13. The water of the Great Salt Lake is
    ________________ seawater.
    (A) saltier than that of
    (B) as salty as that of
    (C) saltier than
    (D) so salty as

    14. Fungi are the most important decomposers of forest soil, just like bacteria are the most important decomposers of grassland soil.

    15. A psychosis is a severe mental disorder,
    ________________ a neurosis.
    (A) the most serious
    (B) as serious
    (C) more serious than
    (D) as though serious

    16. The surfboards used thirty-five years ago were more heavy than the ones used by surfers today.

    17. The horse chestnut has a stronger, bitter taste than other chestnuts.

    18. The social system of bumblebees is not as
    complex __________________.
    (A) than honeybees
    (B) as honeybees
    (C) that honeybees are
    (D) as that of honeybees

    19. Chicago’s Field Museum is one of the largest and better known natural history museums in the United States.

    20. The administration of private colleges is
    nearly __________ that of public colleges.
    (A) same
    (B) just as
    (C) the same as
    (D) similar

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  4. EXERCISE 31
    Focus: Completing structure problems involving misplaced modifiers (Note: ALL the items in this exercise
    focus on misplaced modifiers.)
    Directions: Mark the answer choice that correctly completes the sentence.

    1. Fearing economic hardship, _____________
    _____________________________________
    __________.
    (A) many New Englanders emigrated to
    the Midwest in the 1820s
    (B) emigration from New England to the
    Midwest took place in the 1820s
    (C) it was in the 1820s that many New
    Englanders emigrated to the Midwest
    (D) an emigration took place in the 1820s
    from New England to the Midwest

    2. Rich and distinctive in flavor, ____________
    ______________________________________
    _______.
    (A) there is in the United States a very
    important nut crop, the pecan
    (B) the most important nut crop in the
    United States, the pecan
    (C) farmers in the United States raise
    pecans, a very important nut crop
    (D) pecans are the most important nut
    crop in the United States

    3. Orbiting from 2.7 to 3.6 billion miles from
    the sun, ______________________________
    ________________________________.
    (A) the astronomer Clyde Tombaugh
    discovered Pluto in 1930
    (B) Pluto was discovered by the astronomer
    Clyde Tombaugh in 1930
    (C) it was in 1930 that the astronomer
    Clyde Tombaugh discovered Pluto
    (D) the discovery of Pluto was made by
    Clyde Tombaugh in 1930

    4. A popular instrument, __________________
    _____________________________________
    ________.
    (A) only a limited role has been available
    to the accordion in classical music
    (B) there is only a limited role for the
    accordion in popular music
    (C) classical music provides only a limited
    role for the accordion
    (D) the accordion has played only a
    limited role in classical music

    5. Unlike most birds, _____________________
    ____________________________________.
    (A) the heads and necks of vultures lack
    feathers
    (B) feathers are not found on the heads
    and necks of vultures
    (C) vultures do not have feathers on their
    heads and necks
    (D) there are no feathers on vultures’
    heads and necks

    6. Widely reproduced in magazines and books,
    ______________________________________
    ______________________________.
    (A) Ansel Adams depicted the Western
    wilderness in his photographs
    (B) the Western wilderness was depicted
    in the photographs of Ansel Adams
    (C) Ansel Adams’ photographs depicted the
    Western wilderness
    (D) it was through his photographs that
    Ansel Adams depicted the Western wilderness

    7. Smaller and flatter than an orange, ________
    ______________________________________
    ____________________.
    (A) a tangerine is easy to peel and its
    sections separate readily
    (B) the peel of a tangerine is easily
    removed and its sections are readily
    separated
    (C) it’s easy to peel a tangerine and to
    separate its sections
    (D) to peel a tangerine is easy, and its
    sections can be readily separated

    8. Like the federal government, ____________
    _____________________________________
    ___________________.
    (A) taxation provides most of the funds for
    state and local governments as well
    (B) state and local governments obtain
    most of their funds through taxation
    (C) through taxation is how state and local
    governments obtain most of their
    funds
    (D) funds are provided from taxation for
    state and local governments

    9. Originally settled by Polynesians around
    700 C.E., ______________________________
    ______________________________________.
    (A) Hawaii received its first European
    visitor in 1778, when Captain James
    Cook landed there
    (B) Hawaii’s first European visitor, Captain
    James Cook, landed there in 1778
    (C) in 1778 the first European, Captain
    James Cook, visited Hawaii
    (D) the first European to visit Hawaii was
    Captain James Cook, landing there in 1778

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  5. EXERCISE 32
    Focus: Completing structure problems involving negative words (Note: ALL the items in this exercise focus
    on negative words.)
    Directions: For Sentence Completion items, mark the answer choice—(A), (B), (C), or (D)—which
    correctly completes the sentence. For Error Identification items, circle the underlined portion of the
    sentence that would not be considered correct.

    1. Early carpenters, having __________ nails,
    had to use wooden pegs to secure their
    constructions.
    (A) no
    (B) not
    (C) without
    (D) neither

    2. Old Faithful is the most famous but
    ___________ the most powerful geyser in
    Yellowstone National Park.
    (A) none of
    (B) no
    (C) nothing
    (D) not

    3. Joseph Priestly, the discoverer of oxygen, had little or not
    interest in science until he met Benjamin Franklin in Paris.

    4. Mobile homes were __________ counted as
    permanent houses until the 1960 census.
    (A) not
    (B) nor
    (C) no
    (D) none

    5. Most solo musicians play __________ sheet
    music in front of them.
    (A) without
    (B) not having
    (C) lacking
    (D) and no

    6. Desertification is the creation of deserts
    where __________ had existed before.
    (A) never
    (B) no one
    (C) none
    (D) not one

    7. A peanut is not actually a nut but a legume alike peas and
    beans.

    8. Glass snakes are actually legless lizards,
    __________ snakes.
    (A) no
    (B) not
    (C) nor
    (D) none

    9. Twenty-four carat gold is no 100 percent gold because pure gold is too soft to be used in jewelry.

    10. There is __________ truth to the old
    expression “Lightning never strikes the
    same place twice.”
    (A) without
    (B) none
    (C) no
    (D) not

    11. ______________ single person can be said
    to have invented the automobile.
    (A) There was not a
    (B) Nor a
    (C) Not one of
    (D) No

    12. A serious study of physics is impossible
    ________ some knowledge of mathematics.
    (A) not with
    (B) no
    (C) not having
    (D) without

    REVIEW TEST G: STRUCTURE
    Directions: For Sentence Completion items, select the answer choice—(A), (B), (C), or (D)—that
    correctly completes the sentence. For Error Identification items, select the answer choice—(A), (B),
    (C), or (D)—that corresponds to the underlined portion of the sentence that would not be considered
    correct.

    1. ______________________________ one of
    Canada’s greatest engineering projects, is a
    twenty-seven mile long waterway between
    Lake Erie and Lake Ontario.
    (A) Because the Welland Ship Canal is
    (B) The Welland Ship Canal is
    (C) That the Welland Ship Canal is
    (D) The Welland Ship Canal,

    2. Pikes Peak, named for explorer Zebulon
    Pike, is Colorado’s most famous but not its
    most highest mountain.

    3. Oceanography is not a single science and rather a group of disciplines with a common focus.

    4. The art of landscape architecture is
    ________________ that of architecture
    itself.
    (A) almost as old as
    (B) as almost old
    (C) almost as old than
    (D) old as almost

    5. The term forgetting refers to the loss, whether temporary and long-term, of material that has previously been learned.

    6. Early astronomers believed that the fainter a
    star, _____________________.
    (A) it was farther away
    (B) the farther away was it
    (C) that it was farther away
    (D) the farther away it was

    7. Released in 1915, ______________________
    _____________________________________
    ______.
    (A) D. W. Griffith made an epic film about
    the Civil War, Birth of a Nation
    (B) the Civil War was the subject of D. W.
    Griffith’s epic film, Birth of a Nation
    (C) D. W. Griffith’s epic film Birth of a
    Nation was about the Civil War
    (D) the subject of D. W. Griffith’s epic film
    Birth of a Nation was the Civil War

    8. One way pumpkins and watermelons are like is that both grow on vines trailing along the surface of the ground.

    9. __________ the reptiles alive today is
    capable of flight.
    (A) No
    (B) None of
    (C) Not one
    (D) Not

    10. When the female oriole is absent from the
    nest, the male oriole serves like a sentinel.

    11. Elfego Baca, ____________ legendary
    Mexican-American folk hero, was a lawman
    in New Mexico in the late 1880s.
    (A) a
    (B) who, as a
    (C) was a
    (D) and he was a

    12. Until the 1940s, a historian’s own era was
    no regarded as a proper field of study.

    13. An operetta has some of the same musical elements as an opera and is much lighter in both subject and style.

    14. Properly administered, __________________
    ______________________________________.
    (A) the symptoms of many mental illnesses
    can be treated with drugs
    (B) drugs can be used to treat the symptoms
    of many mental illnesses
    (C) doctors can use drugs to treat symptoms
    of many mental illnesses
    (D) many of the symptoms of mental illness can be treated with drugs

    15. Early explorers in Utah named the cliffs
    they encountered “reefs” because they thought these cliffs looked alike coral formations.

    16. Neither humans or dogs can hear as well as cats.

    17. _______________ popular child’s toy since
    1905, the teddy bear was named after
    President Theodore Roosevelt.
    (A) It has been a
    (B) A
    (C) Once a
    (D) First it became a

    18. Just like microscopes have provided access to the world of small objects, high-speed cameras have provided access to the world of short-duration events.

    19. __________ plant has a nervous system, and
    most respond very slowly to stimuli in their
    environments.
    (A) Not a
    (B) Never a
    (C) No
    (D) None

    20. Gold topaz is much rare than either white
    or blue topaz.

    21. Vermont is the only state in New England
    _______________ an Atlantic coastline.
    (A) without
    (B) not with
    (C) which not having
    (D) doesn’t have

    22. The Colorado beetle is a beautiful insect,
    __________ it causes a great deal of damage
    to food crops.
    (A) but
    (B) what
    (C) or
    (D) which

    23. Jupiter’s moons can be easily seen through
    __________ binoculars or a small telescope.
    (A) either
    (B) if
    (C) whether
    (D) or

    24. The Kennedy-Nixon race of 1960 was the most closest U.S. presidential election of the twentieth century.

    25. __________ a river on land, an ocean
    current does not flow in a straight line.
    (A) Alike
    (B) Likewise
    (C) Like
    (D) Likely

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